Popped your Cherry?

Here we go again, someone did confess to me that he/she is a virgin and I couldn't help but not to believe. Well, pardon me for saying that... but I've not hear someone confessing their virginity in a very long time. During my highschool days, virginity is a hot topic... the guys will be guessing who are the virgins... the shy girls will be keepin' their secret as long as possible... and the non-virgin girls will be pretending that they are openly, just for more ooomph!



But hey, I'm 28 now and almost everyone I know is already working or in college. Not so many cherries in the farm anymore *lol*. Suddenly a virgin cherry pops out of nowhere... one big '?' appeared on my head . That is also because that person is attractive, which makes it harder for me to hold my second thought.

However, it is great to hear someone have hold it off... not for any other reason other than their own choice. Since alot of our problems comes from sexual relations, I guess there are some perks to being virgin. But I also realize that it must be quite awkward being one when everyone is almost not.

Is it still an honour being a virgin?

Is it still practical at our fast paced life in the city?

Do people still believe if you are?

How different does it makes you if you are?

I don't know. But most people hold on to their virginity for one main reason, and that is for the sanctity of their marriage with another.



I guess the biggest question is if you've waited til you're 30 and you give it to the one, what happens if he/she leaves you then?

I did some search online, and seriously... some of these comments are pretty hilarious. Some really well thought!

Are virgins more desirable?


Deadpool06-16-2003, 01:05 AM

Generally if you are a girl it doesn't matter. In fact it is a bonus to a lot of guys.

Now if you are a guy and you are a virgin thats different. Generally if you haven't lost your virginity at lets say...20 women will think something is wrong with you. Its a turn off for them. I'm saying generally, because there are some women that are totally cool with it, but I think they are the minority. Guys, if you are a virgin, its generally safer to not say anything about it.
I'm not saying being a virgin makles you better or worse but theres a stigma attached to being a virgin in American culture, and thats very unfortunate. It's the du,best cultural standard ever but thats the price you pay for living here.

Emperor_Mike06-16-2003, 01:26 AM

It doesn't matter to me, really. It would be desirable, yes, but if it's not practical then it's no big issue. Like in many things, I'm pragmatic this way. But it doesn't mean that I have no boundaries or values. Certainly if I learn that the girl I'm going out with is a trollop I'd terminate the relationship at once. The term "trollop" is open to interpretation of course, but if she's been with more guys than I can count on both hands, then I'd be wary of starting anything.



With a virgin it should be easier to establish a firm foundation for a lasting relationship because for one thing you'll have to try pretty damn hard to get into her pants if that's your ultimate goal. If she's still a virgin (and has dated before) she must have some pretty strict guidelines or strong morals (i.e. wanting to reserve it for a "special someone) so even if you're in it for the sex you will have put some effort into getting to know her better. Who knows? All that talking and time spent together could work itself into a marriage.

However, with a girl who's quite "active," dating can easily mean a one night-er because you'll know ahead of time that odds are she'll jump into the sack with you after one evening or two. After that anything can happen. But since there was no aim at "working" toward sex, a pairing this will be less development oriented and the chances of something meaningful coming out of it are reduced.

In any case for the possibility of a good long-term relationship I'd rather date a girl with strong moral fibre, equally resilient values, and steadfast integrity. Fun and casual dates leading to several sessions of mattress olympics will require a different type of candidate, naturally. ;) But life is strange and sometimes your carefree bedmate may turn out to be long-term material. Hard to say.



mr. x06-19-2003, 11:25 AM
i think its silly that a girl should feel ashamed to be a virgin, i mean its easier for a girl to get "offers" like chris rock said, "women are offered dick every day. 'can i get ya something (and some dick?) "

so a girl who holds off shows she has a strong mind


kboy7506-17-2003, 07:26 AM
no virgins.

i want a girl who KNOWS what she is doing. I don't someone who is very loose (no pun intended), but I don't wanna do any training. Let's cut to the chase and the fun...



And another post with the title...

How do u handle being a virgin past 25

Posted: 8/13/2005 3:31:02 PM
who the hell stays a virgin past 25

it,s just sex

go out and get laid.
shit if your having problems
get a hooker

just get laid dammit

how do u handle being a virgin past 25

Posted: 8/15/2005 1:21:45 AM
I think somebody already said it but I gotta say it again...BUY A HOOKER, or at the least find a really ugly girl with low standards.


Then I stumbled into this article talking about virgin school. A place where you are thought how to lose your virginity. LMAO!.



Virgin School

After seeing the photos, I suggest ... better don't lose it lah. The guy actually lost it to the granny. *pengsan*

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You know what, whether you're actually a virgin, a fake virgin or a crazy monkey banging left, right and center... its your choice and its your life lah. Sex at the end is part and partial of a successful relationship. In fact, it is part and partial of our being.



P.S: But I'm a virgin too!

Okei... I tried.. =/

To all you virgins out there... I actually have a problem being a non-virgin. Somehow the stigma is greater for me. Believe it or not..